We all have dirty little secrets that we don’t share with the world: that one closet that’s a complete disaster, a super guilty pleasure we don’t indulge in front of anyone, the white lie we tell when we want to get out of plans or the negative thought we occasionally harbor that don’t make us seem very nice. Even if you don’t want to admit it, you totally have at least one! I know I do and, in the spirit of keeping it real here, I want to share one with you.
You ready for this?
Sometimes I resent my husband.
Yeah. Not really something I’m proud to admit, but it’s true and when it happens, I don’t feel good about it.
I don’t do it on purpose, but when he’s gone again and I’m stuck at home dealing with all the at-home things, a little bit of resentment creeps in. When he’s on a training trip and gets fun goof-off time and I have worked 21 days straight for events, it creeps in. When he agrees to deploy for the second time in a year and leaves on the day I come down the flu, it creeps in. When he’s not here to help me get through a rough day, it creeps in.
I try and banish that resentment as quickly as possible because a) it’s not a terribly flattering look no matter what color shoes you wear and b) I know none of it is truly his fault and that odds are, he’d rather be home too. But I’d be lying if I said I was always immediately successful and that it didn’t come back.
So how do I get over it? This is going to sound cheesy, but I think of as many reasons I love him as possible. After all, it’s harder to resent someone who you love because they get as excited about wiener dogs as you do. Sometimes I get over it after just a handful of reasons and sometimes it takes a few more. But it usually works and I’m back to my normal self.
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