“I’m just a military spouse.”
“I’m just a stay-at-home mom.”
“I’m just a student.”
“I’m just a __________________.”
You’ve said some variation of these exact same sentences at least once, but probably even more often than that. You didn’t mean anything negative by it. You actually did it without thinking. You don’t even realize that you’ve belittled yourself.
But you did.
When you say you’re “just a military spouse,” you end the sentence before adding “and I work a full-time job and I’m getting a master’s degree and I manage to balance all of those things with taking care of kids/house/life while my spouse serves the nation.”
That’s a lot more impressive, isn’t it? It’s also more accurate.
But when you say you’re just that or you just do this, you don’t keep going and when you don’t keep going, you sell yourself short. When you say you’re “just” something, it leaves no room for all of the other amazing, wonderful things you are or do.
I too am guilty of selling myself short, usually in a misguided attempt to be modest or deferential to someone else’s accomplishments. But when you think about it, that’s absurd. I can be humble, modest and in awe of someone else for all their kick butt moments and still be dang proud of my own.
So in 2018, I’ve given up the word “just”; I quit it cold turkey. Moving forward I will remember that I am a sum of many parts and seek to acknowledge all of them. It will be tough some days, especially as my husband’s career forces me to adjust and reevaluate my own. But no matter what, I’m worth a full explanation.
And so are you.
Join me in making 2018 the year of the full explanation. Stop selling yourself short because you feel like it’s something you SHOULD do. Stop saying that you’re “just” anything.
Give me your full explanation in the comments so I can get to know you better!