The Deployment ABCs is a 26-week series where I cover every deployment-related topic, from care packages to homecomings to OPSEC. Tips, tricks and maybe a resource or two to help military spouses navigate their way through the craziness that is a deployment. If there’s a topic you’d like for me to cover or are interested in adding your own thoughts to, send me an email and we’ll chat!
One of the wonderful parts of deployment is that you get lots of you time. Sometimes it borders on too much you time, but there is something kind of refreshing about controlling the TV remote for an extended period of time. But how do you make sure that you don’t waste all that you time on bad Netflix originals? I’m sharing some tips for making the most of your you time.
Tips for quality you time
Make a plan
This could just be the planner in me, but I really think that in order to have quality anything, you have to plan it out! I’m not saying to micromanage every single moment, but if you know you want to spend the day crafting, make sure you have the materials on hand for your project!
Do something YOU love
Relationships are all about compromise. One of you may love watching football for hours on Sunday while the other one might rather go to the farmers market and brunch. So if you’re flying solo for a little bit, why not do all the things you generally skip? It could be reading a book all in one day, spending an extra long time browsing at Target or blasting the Dixie Chicks as loud as possible while you bake. No matter what it is, do the things that YOU love.
You time doesn’t have to mean alone time. Sometimes inviting friends or family to join you in something may be the thing that makes it memorable. When you’re planning out you time, think through whether or not you want to do it solo.
Set aside time
During a deployment, there are a lot of things that need your attention. Everything from the housework to the yard work to all of the admin tasks fall on a spouse’s shoulders when their loved one is deployed. So in order to have you time, you have to first set aside time for yourself. Block off time regularly to do something important and enjoyable to you; even a half hour can do wonders.
How do you make the most of your you time?