The Deployment ABCs is a 26-week series where I cover every deployment-related topic, from care packages to homecomings to OPSEC. Tips, tricks and maybe a resource or two to help military spouses navigate their way through the craziness that is a deployment. If there’s a topic you’d like for me to cover or are interested in adding your own thoughts to, send me an email and we’ll chat!
As a warning, today’s post may be less of an informative piece and more of a heart-on-my-sleeve rant. I think the worst part of deployment is the unknown. No matter how hard you try to be flexible and go with the flow, deployment knows just when to throw you that last curveball that breaks the camel’s back.
I know that was a lot of mixed metaphors and maybe a cliche or two, but go with me on this one.
Whether it’s constantly changing departure/return dates or spotty communication on their end or random Murphy’s Law type moments on your end, the only thing you can count on is that deployments will bring plenty of the unknown.
For the planners in the world (ahem…me), it can be exceptionally difficult to deal with the unknown. I’m someone who takes a bit of time to wrap my head around things and it can take even longer for me to adjust my previously created plans to fit the new reality.
But I don’t have any other choice. That is the only true known of a deployment: changes will happen whether you’re ready for them or not and you have to just suck it up.
So when your husband comes home and tell you that his departure date got moved up almost two weeks, you collect yourself as best you can. You speed up all of the preparations you had brewing. You rearrange your work schedule so you can spend a few extra days together. You hug him tightly every chance you get. You let it become your new reality. And you remind yourself that it could totally happen again.